I don’t understand why people think of martyrdom the way they do. The Christian West has become “fake-meek”. They mistake suicide by a villain for martyrdom and passivity for strength.
Martyrdom isn’t letting your enemy overpower you. It isn’t letting the enemy kill you with a smile on your face. Martyrdom is not setting out to let yourself die while acting smug. The word “martyr” in Greek means “witness”. You tell the Truth. You witness to others about God. Even at the expense of your life.

They speak of Jesus as the ultimate example. Jesus was a sacrifice. He died as ransom. He knew why he must die.

Do you think I cannot call on my Father, and he will at once put at my disposal more than twelve legions of angels?
But how then would the Scriptures be fulfilled that say it must happen in this way?
– Matthew 26:53-54 (NIV)
Many who speak of this fake-meek “martyrdom” fear the Gospel. They shy away from Truth. They distort the Bible to avoid “offending” themselves and say it’s for others.
A Christian is to prepare his or her life for martyrdom. Take up the cross. Deny the self.
You don’t sit there as the enemy kill your family with a smile on your face.That doesn’t make you a martyr. That makes you a coward.